3: Why “More Effort” only creates more tension, and the one thing that actually creates true healing with Erin Liefeld
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things… but still not feeling the way you thought you would, this episode is for you. You’ll understand why on an energetic level and get a totally different perspective on why your efforts actually tend to keep you right where you are.
In this conversation with my mentor Erin, we explore the real mechanics behind healing, emotional patterns, and why so many women feel stuck in cycles of trying, tension and exhaustion. Erin explains her path into the world of energy and how she uses kinesiology and presence as the path to steady, embodied movement.
We dive into:
- Why “trying harder” often keeps you stuck
- The difference between goals and intentions
- How unresolved emotions from childhood shape your identity
- Why you feel overwhelmed, disconnected or like you’re not doing enough
- And what actually creates real movement and change
One of my favourite parts of this conversation is the reminder that you can’t skip steps in your healing. You don’t go from A to Z. When we’re honest we just shuffle slowly from A… to B… to C. And the more you can be fully where you are (instead of trying to get somewhere else) the more things begin to shift naturally.
This episode isn’t about doing more.
It’s about understanding why “doing” isn’t working… and how connection, compassion and presence are the only things that will actually move you forward.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 Warm Welcome
- 00:41 What Is Kinesiology
- 03:11 Goals Versus Intentions
- 06:17 From Goals To Connection
- 13:40 Inner Child And Resistance
- 18:17 Why Emotions Get Stuck
- 25:11 Tension And Trying
- 28:50 Connection Over Techniques
- 33:10 Erin’s Connectivity Practices
- 37:32 Origin Story Begins
- 39:29 Melbourne Kinesiology Calling
- 41:33 Studying and Mentorship
- 44:04 Respect the Calling
- 44:59 Mother Not Practitioner
- 50:40 Holding Big Emotions
- 55:15 No Parenting Ideals
- 57:57 Tribe and Compassion
- 01:03:59 Alphabet Steps Not Leaps
- 01:06:50 Be Where You Are
- 01:08:25 Rapid Fire and Farewell
Where to Find Erin:
Calendar link: https://calendly.com/erinliefeld/online-sessions-2025?back=1&month=2026-05
Practice with me online
Website: www.melissakitchen.com
Membership: https://www.melissakitchen.com/more-energy-membership
Instagram: @melissa.energetics
